Free Lunch?
this is something i have noticed for a while, and it has happened to me too. when you have free lunch you end up being a puppet.
to think of this logically, there is a saying - the way to a man's heart is through the stomach. when you are full in the tummy, we as a human have a natural tenancy to think from the heart and not the mind, so the decisions & choices you make are emotional rather than rational.
i tried this on myself, i had free lunch at my former in laws place and also at the office. in both cases, i had become a slave. i was doing things that i would normally never do or put up with. i was emotionally attached to them... which is a bad thing and immediately makes you weak, prone to complacency, you put up with bullshit all the time, you lose yourself.
this is a slow process, it happens so slowly that you will not know that it hit you until after its over. at the beginning you will receive this as gratitude, then it will be 'one of them', then you be will taken for granted, then you turn out to be a burden. its like the famous saying in india 'all excitement lasts for 4 days'... you buy something new, you play with it & love it for just 4 days after which you just take it for granted. this is the same case with human to human interaction.
to look at this in another perspective, there is no such thing as free lunch. for me, with the in laws & office there was an agenda. the reasoning is that they need something more than they normally expect or would get. the pressure increases, work load increases, stress increases, above all of this you lose your respect. you become expendable.
do yourself a favor... do not be a puppet... despise that free lunch!
to think of this logically, there is a saying - the way to a man's heart is through the stomach. when you are full in the tummy, we as a human have a natural tenancy to think from the heart and not the mind, so the decisions & choices you make are emotional rather than rational.
i tried this on myself, i had free lunch at my former in laws place and also at the office. in both cases, i had become a slave. i was doing things that i would normally never do or put up with. i was emotionally attached to them... which is a bad thing and immediately makes you weak, prone to complacency, you put up with bullshit all the time, you lose yourself.
this is a slow process, it happens so slowly that you will not know that it hit you until after its over. at the beginning you will receive this as gratitude, then it will be 'one of them', then you be will taken for granted, then you turn out to be a burden. its like the famous saying in india 'all excitement lasts for 4 days'... you buy something new, you play with it & love it for just 4 days after which you just take it for granted. this is the same case with human to human interaction.
to look at this in another perspective, there is no such thing as free lunch. for me, with the in laws & office there was an agenda. the reasoning is that they need something more than they normally expect or would get. the pressure increases, work load increases, stress increases, above all of this you lose your respect. you become expendable.
do yourself a favor... do not be a puppet... despise that free lunch!
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